August 14, 2011
Date: 08/15/2011 01:50 PM
Subject: Re: Good to see you...
It was good to see you as well. I believe the book we discussed is called "The Gift of Fear" by Gavin de Becker. It's a really good exploration of stalking. I hope it helps although I hope even more that you don't need to use it. Keep me informed of what happens. I'll keep my fingers crossed and pray that there's nothing to worry about.
On Sun, Aug 14, 2011 at 1:50 PM, kpace@*******.edu wrote:
> at the Southern Writers, Southern Writing conference. It's been too long since we had
> a chance to talk. Hopefully, we can get together again soon. I meant to ask you before
> you left... what was the name of the book you recommended to me? The one about
> stalkers? I believe it had "Fear" in the title and the author's name was something like
> Becker or Beeker or something. When we were talking about my overzealous student,
> and you mentioned it, I didn't think it was necessary. However, after thinking about it for
> a while, I figure it can't hurt to do a little research. I don't think this guy is really
> dangerous, but I guess it's better to be safe than sorry.
> Thanks for the info and hope your semester gets off to a good start!
August 17, 2011
Date: 08/19/2011 8:25 AM
Subject: stupid question
Sorry it took a while to respond... things have been crazy around here. How is life in the ivy-covered walls of academia?
Anyway, I'm not sure I can answer your question with any certainty. But, I would think that the chances of you getting caught are pretty slim. You don't meet any of the typical red-flags for an audit, so that would only happen if they picked you from random. One of the ways that they would check things out is that they could look at the money coming in and out of your checking account. They know how much you make from teaching, but if there is a boatload of extra money flowing through your account, then that would be an indicator of something wrong. I'm assuming that your tips aren't enough to be going out and buying a Ferrari or anything so I don't imagine you would attract a whole lot of attention. So I think you're safe.
On another note, Bobby had an appendicitis but is recovering from the surgery nicely.
On Wed, Aug 17, 2011 at 10:30 PM, kpace@*******.edu wrote:
> Got a dumb question I'm sure you'll be able to answer for me... and probably get a
> good laugh out of as well. How much do you think someone could get away without
> reporting on their income taxes? I often pick up a few odd shifts at a friend's café and
> she usually just pays me in cash. I get that, plus tips. Do you think I have to report it?
> What are the chances of them actually auditing an English teacher anyway?
> I know you think I'm an idiot, but that's what you get for leaving me in the academic
> world while you went off to join the finance world. You can giggle at my stupidity while
> you wash the filthy lucre off your hands tonight.
August 18, 2011
Date: 08/18/2011 08:13 PM
You guys are ridiculous. How many times is this now? You should just dump his sorry ass.
On Thu, Aug 18, 2011 at 9:43 AM, kpace@*******.edu wrote:
> No, he's threatening to move out again. I'm through worrying about it. I gotta run... I'll
> write more later.
August 20, 2011
Date: 08/20/2011 3:21 PM
You know I care about you and wish you the best. Which means that I just have to ask this question... is this relationship really worth it? You guys just seem to fight an awful lot and he's constantly moving out, moving back in, moving out again and it just never seems to end.
It sounds like you're relaxing and enjoying the quiet, so I hope you get some rest. But I really think you should think about the validity of this relationship.
On Sat, Aug 20, 2011 at 2:55 PM, kpace@*******.edu wrote:
> Anyway, so like I said earlier... he's talking about moving out again. As usual, he's
> being pissy about all kinds of silly stuff and quite frankly, I'm tired of worrying about it.
> He spent the weekend at Miguel's and I was loving the peace and quiet. I went out
> some and just relaxed around the house and enjoyed not having to listen to him. So,
> who cares?
September 3, 2011
Date: 09/03/2011 1:15 PM
Glad you got the book. I hope it helps. Definitely keep me updated on what happens. I'm worried about you. Don't take this thing lightly. Treat it as serious as you can. Call me, at any time day or night, if you need anything!
On Sat, Sep 3, 2011 at 9:11 AM, kpace@*******.edu wrote:
> I got the book. Thanks! I haven't been able to read it all yet... I'll let you know when I
> finish. I talked to the chair of my department about this student. I've been getting more
> and more worried about this guy. He keeps following me around. Every time I go
> somewhere, whether it's in a bar or a restaurant, there he is. It's getting freaky.
> Anyway, I talked to the chairman and he said he was going to check with the
> administration to see what could be done. I'll keep you informed!
September 4, 2011
Date: 09/05/2011 8:01 AM
Certainly we can talk about the issues with Laurence. You shouldn't have to keep putting up with his nonsense. Come by during my office hours and we can talk. If I'm booked up, we can make plans for coffee or lunch or something.
On Sun, Sep 4, 2011 at 3:23 PM, kpace@*******.edu wrote:
> Could we possibly get together sometime so I can get your advice on Laurence.
> You've been with the department for so much longer than I have, I'd love to hear what
> you think I should do. I don't want to cause any trouble or create conflict within the
> faculty, but this whole thing is simply going too far. I don't know how much more I can
> Thanks for your help. You've been a great mentor to me since I joined the faculty. I'm
> really lucky to have your assistance.
September 14, 2011
Date: 09/14/2011 3:10 PM
Well, I'm glad you're having a blast. Just try not to worry too much. I think it's important that you evaluate your relationship, but at the same time, don't let it get you down. Have fun and enjoy the time to yourself!
On Sun, Sep 14, 2011 at 9:11 AM, kpace@*******.edu wrote:
> I say, screw him. He'll be back. I just don't really need his hassle right now. Everything
> will work itself out, but for the time being, I'm kind of glad for the break. He has an
> opening in a couple of weeks and I'll go to that and I'm sure things will get better. But,
> right now, I'm having a blast!
September 17, 2011
Date: 09/17/2011 06:18 PM
I've left you several messages, but in case you check your e-mail, we're all going to Murff's tonight. We'll be there around 9:30 so come down and join us.
September 19, 2011
Date: 09/20/2011 8:51 AM
Subject: newspaper response
I read your piece and it looks good to me. I'm just sorry that you have to defend yourself in this way. The whole thing is just terrible. I know that all the faculty and the students, at least the ones with a brain, support you and know that all the accusations are false. Hang in there!
On Mon, Sep 19, 2011 at 10:33 PM, kpace@*******.edu wrote:
> Read over the attached Word file. It's my response that I'm going to send the DM about
> the buying grades crap. Let me know if you think I should change anything.