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Barbara
Ellen Dubois was born to Gerard and Susan Dubois in Oxford,
Mississippi on August 3, 1980. Gerard Dubois and Susan Whitleff
had met through mutual friends and Gerard often called it "love
at first sight." They were almost constant companions
for the six months before their wedding.
After a
year and a half of marriage, they were blessed by the birth
of a precious baby girl, Barbara. She was so beautiful that
adults often stopped the proud parents on the street to comment
on the gorgeous child who would surely one day be a beauty
queen. But beauty wasn't her only asset; she was a happy, strong
little girl with an independent but loving spirit.
Gerard and
Susan loved their role as parents and looked forward to adding
to their family, but Gerard's life ended in an automobile accident
a month before Barbara's second birthday. Susan was devastated
by her husband's death, but the realization that her daughter's
upbringing was now her sole responsibility kept her grounded
and able to cope. Barbara became her mother's anchor as Susan
concentrated on her child.
Fortunately,
Gerard had made excellent financial arrangements for Susan
so that she was able to remain a stay-at-home-Mom with a comfortable
income. Although Barbara was the center of her universe, Susan
was very careful neither to indulge in the child's every whim
nor to spoil her.
When Barbara
was old enough to benefit from association with other children,
Susan placed her in a progressive day care center; at first
for a few hours a couple of times a week and later several
hours each day. Although Susan could well afford a private
school, she felt her daughter would benefit from meeting children
of diverse backgrounds, so enrolled Barbara in public school.
Barbara was popular with children and teachers. She proved
to be a conciliator on the playground and helped defuse many
playground confrontations. She set an example in the classroom
with good listening and participation skills, did her homework,
and maintained excellent grades. She was friendly and cheerful
with her classmates.
But Barbara
was far from "little Miss Perfect." She had a stubborn,
reckless -- even rebellious -- streak. From the time she was
barely able to walk, she was climbing on everything. Once she
somehow managed to climb onto the low roof of the storage shed
in her backyard and was ready to spread her wings and fly,
when Susan pulled her to safety just in time to avoid a disastrous
landing. Although she knew the shed's roof was off-limits,
Barbara went back time and again until the area was finally
fenced off and unavailable to her. That didn't stop her; she
just looked for other forbidden things to try. She seldom cried
and was never heard to whine or whimper, even when really hurt.
Her mother called her "My Tough Little Cookie."
When Barbara
was five years old, a friend of Susan's suggested she enter
Barbara in a Baby Beauty Pageant. Susan at first scoffed at
the idea, but decided Barbara's beauty, poise, and talent shouldn't
be a secret -- so entered her in their first pageant. Surprisingly,
Barbara was a runner-up on her very first try and Susan was
hooked. She began Barbara in dance lessons and soon added piano
and singing lessons.
Barbara
good-naturedly indulged her mother and seemed to enjoy the
competition and excitement of the pageants, but as she became
older resented the hours and hours necessary to perpetuate
her pageant life.
She loved
jazz, ballet and tap lessons, but when she was 10 adamantly
refused to go to any more piano and singing lessons. She valued
the time she had with her friends, so she convinced her mother
that concentrating on dance classes would pay off in the long
run. She became an accomplished dancer acclaimed by her ballet
teacher as the local ballet company's "future prima ballerina," and
by the studio's jazz and tap teachers as their "star of
the future."
Endless hours
were spent with her coach, Marty "Slim" Rutgers.
All serious pageant participants had coaches who were experts
in the secrets to winning pageants. Slim coached Barbara on
how to walk and talk on stage and what clothes and costumes
to choose. He hired makeup and hair specialists and decided
which talent routine would harvest the most judging points.
Slim was one of the best, most expensive coaches on the pageant
circuit and Susan felt lucky to have him. Then when Barbara
was fourteen, she suddenly announced to her mother that she
didn't want Slim around anymore. She convinced Susan he had
taught her everything she needed and she was tired of spending
so much time with him. Susan was puzzled by this seeming change
of heart but attributed it to Barbara being a teen, and asserting
her independence. She was also aware of Barbara's new interest
in young Bill Lamar, and so figured they probably wanted more
time to spend together.
Bill Lamar,
was the son of Allie Lamar of Lamar Cosmetics, which was a
frequent, valued pageant sponsor. Bill was a couple of years
older than Barbara and seemed a steadying influence on the
younger teen. The youngsters, finding they had much in common,
became inseparable. Susan liked the young man and was glad
Barbara enjoyed spending time with someone connected with the
pageants.
Then in March
1996, just before the Miss Junior Mississippi pageant, Susan
suddenly withdrew Barbara from the pageant and they moved to
Atlanta. Barbara's friends were devastated to have her leave,
but glad for their friend when they learned she was going to
a special school for a year to perfect her pageant talents.
They were disappointed that Barbara did not communicate with
them during that year, but attributed it to her being too busy
with her new schooling.
Soon after
Barbara's departure from Oxford, Bill went to Europe to complete
his schooling and had remained there for the ensuing seven
years.
When Barbara
returned to Oxford from Atlanta, her closest friend, Scarlett
Webb, noticed a new seriousness and maturity. Barbara talked
little of her year away, and once again became engrossed in
the pageant life. She'd always been willing to share her pageant
know-how with younger girls and spent even more time mentoring
them now that Bill wasn't around. Always considerate and caring,
she was well liked, even by most of her competitors.
Barbara continued
to do well in pageants and used her prize money and scholarships
to go to the University of Mississippi. Susan yearned for a
career in show business for her daughter, but Barbara concentrated
on her love of children to earn a B.A.E. from the School of
Education at the University of Mississippi with plans to teach
at the elementary level.
Barbara intended
to make the Yoknapatawpha County Literary Festival Pageant
her last so she could go on to fulfill her dream of educating
children. But her dreams and her life were cut tragically short
when she was brutally murdered.
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